I broke a promise to my friend Madeline that I’d come visit her after school yesterday—that’s the anniversary of her death. I feel bad, but I also feel like she’s overreacting. She refuses to see or speak to me, except to make sudden appearances in the night screaming, “WHY DID YOU BREAK YOUR PROMISE?” Frankly, I broke my promise because I have other things on my mind. For instance, my parents just got divorced. I’d like them to get back together, but I’m starting to feel like I have too many things on my plate. How can I get them back together?
Product of Divorce
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I know this sounds harsh, but you really shouldn’t make promises you can’t keep. From what you’re telling me, it sounds like Madeline’s a ghost, which means that she probably doesn’t have a lot of other friends to go to. I know it’s tough to deal with friends when they’re being unreasonable, but it’s important to remember that any satisfying, lasting friendship carries with it obligations and duties—it can’t all be fun and games. And the same holds true for a marriage. If you patch things up with Madeline, this may serve as a poignant reminder to your parents of the promises they made to each other when they took those sacred vows. In any event, you’ll be better for it.
All the best,